Managing Your Move to or in Atlanta: Expectations vs. Reality--Part 102/18/2018Moving is the adult equivalent of middle school—everyone is really excited about the prospect, but it is only the people with sensible expectations who end up having a smooth move. Sure, it is a new home, a new beginning, and the prospect of a awesome new life--but once that last empty moving truck pulls away and you are standing there amidst your boxes, you have still got to do the actual work. Managing your move with realistic expectations is fundamental to beginning that new life on the right foot--and that means not only accepting the fact that a new abode will not magically suck up the fifteen pounds you want to lose, but that moving is emotionally exhausting even in good circumstances and you and your family should set aside the time and space to accept that. One of the stragne things about a local move--new abode, neighborhoods, schools--is that can be more difficult on the kids than a long-distance relocation. A new house in another state takes away the constant requests to go see their friends in the old neighborhood, and it may be easier to welcome a new life and new friends when your old ones are in a different time zone. But back to the topic. There are three Ps involved with managing your move to or in Atlanta--Purge, Pack, and Pay. What you don't purge will need to be packed, and the more you pack, the more you'll pay. Expectation—I will sort through old stuff and only hang on to what I love. Reality--you love a lot more than you believe you do. Regardless if you handle your own packing or hire professionals, you've got to determine what is worth the time and money to move with you. Purge Purging is one of those odd words you do not hear very often, at least in a positive implication. However, getting rid of the old baggage is one of the best ways that you can empower your new home to bestow your expectations of grandeur. There are hundreds of rules and suggestions to help you figure out the best ways to get rid of your old items, from down-to-earth--"if you haven't used/worn it in a year get rid of it"; to a little wacky--"toss all your negative energy out with the old towels". At its basic level, purging is basically picking through all the cabinets, closets and drawers and constructing three piles: hang on to, get rid of, donate. Or you might have four piles if you have got some very gently used items that you do not use anymore, and consign those things. The hardest thing about purging is retaining the neutrality you need to be relentless about tossing items. If you kept all those pre-school drawings, how can you throw them away and be a great parent? Here is one suggestion—appoint a friend to help you pick through items and talk you through why you're keeping things that are really best thrown away. Having someone else ask you out loud why you want to save the 1980s jelly shoes does put things in focus and you'll have a pain-free time growing the throw away pile if you've got someone to support your decisions. If your significant other is the one with the pack rat tendencies, here is a strategy for assisting a reluctant significant other say good-bye their treasures. Think small, and begin with the kitchen junk drawers, try to limit handling of old matchbooks and old crayons to one time only and progressively get to bigger items, like collections (for example, choose two or three porcelain bunnies and donate or consign the rest). Catch up us next time as we review managing your move topics: Pack and Pay, in Part 2 of this blog series.